I was motivated to write about positivity the week. Positivity is a way of life. I would love to share my positive way of life with you and show you how easy it is to incorporate positive thinking into everything you do. Let’s explore how to turn anything negative into positive energy, a positive lifestyle!
“Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don’t give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.” Tena Desae
This quote says it all!
My road to positivity started when I was very young, and very much unknowingly. My mom needed me to take care of her. My father was abusive to her, and me. As a little girl I had a way of making her feel better. I would tell her to try and think of something that made her happy. I would always tell her she would be ok.
I also was bullied as a child. I never let it get me down. I loved to smile, and seeing the response from others made me happy. I realized that if you could make someone smile, you could also make them happy, That made me happy. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to take each situation you encounter and put a positive spin on anything.
Some of my situations were not good, and I have been through a lot (we all have!) Each situation taught me not to give up or give in! I believe if we can take a deep breath, and just think for a second, you can change negative into positive.
Maybe you were told that’s not possible. What if you rethink the situation and try a different approach? Even the words you use create a positive vibe.
I try to live by this list daily:
• Find the optimistic viewpoint in a negative situation.
• Cultivate and live in a positive environment.
• Go slowly.
• Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill (really, most things, just let it go.) While I was going through some really difficult times, my therapist said to me, “If what you have to say won’t change the situation or add value, let it go.” I don’t like to argue; it drains your energy.
• Don’t let vague fears hold you back from doing what you want. What are you really afraid of? You don’t know unless you actually try.
• Add value and positivity to someone else’s life. I love to do this. How wonderful is it when you can point out a positive “something” in someone else.
• Exercise regularly, and eat and sleep well.
Coming home from a recent trip, I misplaced paperwork that allowed me back into the US. I started looking where I may have put it. I was quickly approaching the plane, but I didn’t get rattled. The ticket taker had me step aside. I asked, “What will happen if I don’t find the paper?” She said I had to go back out of the airport, then pay $40 and fill out the form again. Well I would have missed the flight for sure. Fortunately, I found the paper and things were fine.
My friend ask me what I would have done if things didn’t turn out that way. That was an interesting question to me. I honestly didn’t even give it another thought, but I explained to her why I didn’t get upset or even thought about it again. There was nothing I could have done to change the situation (except not misplacing the paper.) Taking that situation calmly was the only way I saw to fix it. Had I been upset, gotten angry, blamed someone, things would not have turned out any different.
When things don’t go smoothly, learn from the experience and do better next time.
Start the day with positive affirmation. When you wake up, instead of dreading what you have to do, look forward to at least one thing you need to do that day. I always look forward to my workout! But I don’t like dealing with arthritis in the morning. Knowing a hot shower and my workout will make my back feel better makes me happy.
Focus on the good, however small. I love walking into my yoga class and feeling the beautiful energy in the room, and knowing I’m gonna have an amazing class and learn something new in the process!
Find humor in bad situations. Laughter heals all. Give yourself a laugh and move on! Transform negative self-talk into positive self-talk. Look in the mirror and say, “Did I really just do or think that?”
Turn failures into lessons. This is really important for so many reasons. Not only for you, but also for you to teach your children to learn from failure and do it differently next time.
Focus on the present. We can’t predict the future – why try? And if we look back, that is fine , if you’re looking to do something you didn’t do well differently.
Find positive friends, mentors and co-workers. They are out there! I believe if you surround yourself with positive people, it’s contagious and others will want to join the positivity. Even when I’m with someone who isn’t positive, I never let that break my spirit. I’ve also been told that being positive all the time is annoying. I’ll take being annoying! Have fun, enjoy life, share the love of life with others. Don’t worry so much about what others think. Do something every day just for you. Appreciate your growth, you are amazing. Own it, embrace it!
Here are some of the most inspirational thoughts of positive thinking:
• No matter how much the world tries to hold you back, always continue with the belief that what you want to achieve is possible. Believing you can become successful is the most important step in actually achieving it.
• People’s words can have a big effect on other’s lives. Think about what you say before it comes out of your mouth. It might just be the difference between life and death.
• Our struggles in life develop our strengths. Without struggles, we never grow and never get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not be relying on help from others.
• Control your anger, and don’t say things to people in the heat of the moment, that you may later regret. Some things in life you are unable to take back.
And the most positive thing in life is love…. to be loved and give love is a treasure we have all been given💕